What would you say if I asked you to throw out all your archetypes, goddesses, and inspirational females you try to model yourself after?
I started my first Art of Feminine Presence class in boulder this week and the theme of the series is DEFINE YOUR OWN FEMININE ARCHETYPE.
I encouraged my ladies to throw away goddesses, inspirational leaders, and other feminine inspirations OUT THERE for the duration of our series to give themselves the space to feel and receive their own core essence.
Kinda radical I suppose, but you know me.
Do archetypes help us embody aspects of ourselves, yes. They can. AND they can also leave those aspects right were we found them, in the archetypes never to be integrated.
Here’s my experience, not theory. At first, the archetypes and inspirations are a muse, an inspiration. They are the INITIATION, the way shower. But when you want to bring it into YOUR BODY, YOUR VOICE, YOUR MOVEMENT, when you’re looking to females OUT THERE for this, the best you’re gonna get is still feeling like there is something missing inside of you, because what you want is perpetually OUT THERE.
Until you go within and discover the visceral , tangible, sense and feeling of your own essence, and then begin the process of bringing the inside out so you can have your own impact and presence reflected back to you, you will always feel like you don’t know your own value.
This last year has been pivotal for me because I used it to digest what I had learned, and it was not always easy or painless. And I know my own feminine essence now more than ever because without a mentor, a teacher, or a woman I was trying to model myself after, I had to discover on my own what MY feminine was about and how I wanted to express it.
Because bottom line: If you try to model yourself after something, the best you’ll become is a second hand model of that thing.
And if you don’t know what your own essence feels like and have access to that connection without question, then you probably are always feeling a bit or a lot off center and needy for others approval.
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson
In class later we delved into this week’s theme which was about connection and what that felt like. We did a few practices without words and noticed how it felt to connect womb to womb and heart to heart vs *TRYING* to connect, with the energy going out to the other person. When we TRY to connect with others instead of stay in our core, it’s a sign that we don’t trust our own essence, we don’t think it’s worth anything so why would anyone else want to connect without me having to force it or not let it go.
The results in class were not as subtle as you think.
So… I wanna know:
Being as most of you are not in class here, what do you think happened? What does it feel like to you to simply connect vs TRY to connect. And what do you think of the idea about letting go of external archetypal feminine inspiration for a few weeks?
I would love to know about it!! Email me or comment on the blog.