The evolved man: A brief look into what he won’t do, will do, and needs from you

The evolved man: A brief look into what he won’t do, will do, and needs from you

The evolved man: A brief look into what he won’t do, will do, and needs from you What he won’t do: Coddle you Agree with everything you do and say Make it safe and secure for you Make it comfortable for you Make it easy for you Let you hide behind him… for very long Entertain the ways you try to consciously or unconsciously manipulate him Play into unconscious power struggles At some point, you realize that he is SAFE because he is real and because of all that he won’t do. What he has been known to do: Stay up all night with you helping you unravel your shame, repressed anger and guilt Encourage you to get angry at him and tell him exactly how you feel Call you on your bullshit and your stories and let you work it out on your own Give you presence and attention that is like water to your rose buds Want you to blossom and succeed more than he wants that for himself Provide you with a wide open space of freedom to roam the world in ( which if you don’t want to be free inside somewhere is really hard to receive) Commit himself to helping you grow into your full potential Help you go very deep into your core wounds so that you can clear them out Keep sex very sacred and whole with you Be Generally more private and contained with his sexuality and choice of sexual partners (I said private not prude) At some point, you realize that he is much more than you ever gave him...
What you DON’T need when you are stuck (dancing involved)

What you DON’T need when you are stuck (dancing involved)

There is an epidemic happening: It’s called Information Overload.  What I hear often from women I work with is “I feel like I have so much information, TOO much information, so much so that I don’t even know what to do with it all”. They say to me “I just feel frustrated, I can see all my patterns, what I need to change or do, but I just can’t do it, and I am stuck.” At this point, most of us (including me) get caught in a cycle of seeking outside for answers. The next book, the next teacher, the next workshop, the next thing that will help you move forward. But here’s the thing: Most often at this place in your cycle, what’s happening is not that you need more information, it’s that you are too full and havn’t digested anything. You are avoiding feeling something, avoiding your body, avoiding being present. And nothing, NOTHING, else will help you move forward until you understand how to come back home, get connected, and realize that the clarity you really want comes after you’ve returned to yourself, not after you buy that next course. This video is about how to gain your own insight by going within BEFORE you go outside to take action. Because nothing you do outside is ever gonna feel good if you don’t feel connected to yourself. It’s also a video that was created on two levels. This weekend I happened to record myself freestyle dancing in my new house and when I started to edit this particular words of wisdom, I though to myself, I...
Love is Never Lost + The New Paradigm of Breaking up

Love is Never Lost + The New Paradigm of Breaking up

A text from him is all it takes for my heart to melt. Even after a year of being apart. No matter how far I am from him or who else I’m with, my heart still bursts open in his presence, even via text message. It’s a love so deep it makes me cry. My longing turns on fire when I think of him. For a while after we broke up, I couldn’t even see him without bursting into tears. Today I texted him to set up a lunch date before I fly away from Austin on my Dance Medicine World Journey, and when I thought of seeing him for lunch in a few days, I started crying. A FREAKING YEAR later and I still cry. They are not tears of sadness really. They are tears of heart opening joy and love. They are the tears of my desire. The remembering my heart has of what it feels like to be in so much viscous juicy love with another being. The remembering of what it feels like to be in communion with a good man, who worshiped me and I him. The tears are the cry of my soul in reminding me what I truly desire in life. The cultural delusion we create that says when you break up with someone all of the sudden you no longer love them, you’re not allowed to have feelings for them, you’ll have to just get over it, move on and be done with it, is at this point in my life such bullshit to me. Moving on has nothing to do...