Your Worth isn’t even on the Table

Your Worth isn’t even on the Table

Try this on for size. Your WORTH isn’t up for questioning. Your WORTH isn’t even on the table. It’s non negotiable. It’s not even a THING! The last month or so I’ve personally been grappling with this nasty energy of unworthiness, self doubt, and not enoughness. It’s been more present than usual, more up in the air and showing up in all of my client conversations. In fact part of my own marketing, part of my own message has been about self value and worth and that our feminine essence helps us know our own inherent value. There is a subtle flaw here I want to transform. And that is this: I no longer want to use my feminine energy or essence as a bargaining tool for my own value as a human. I no longer want to use anything as a bargaining tool for my inherent worthiness or existence. How many actions do you take, words you speak, thoughts you think, deals and agreements you make, relationships you stay in because they are somehow a bargaining chip for your own value? NO MORE I SAY. When I really got this, I started to see everywhere that I was still attaching my value out in the world as something that could be questioned and how that was creating a vicious cycle of self imprisonment. Everything in my world was a question of my own value and that was painful and heavy. When you make your value something that’s not questionable, you can start to get down to the real deal about what’s really going on, what you really want,...
How to Survive your Family During the Holidays ( And stay centered and joyful instead)

How to Survive your Family During the Holidays ( And stay centered and joyful instead)

Ok lets face it. Family is a challenge. As amazing as it is, it’s our greatest teacher. And sometimes our teachers don’t feel so great. And every time I spend time with my family, I brace myself a little. I learn every time how to be more myself, let myself go, and how to let go of the stories I play out so I can just relax, have fun, and access gratitude and acceptance. On top of that, the holiday time and the entrance of winter time in the northern hemisphere, brings up lots of emotions and old wounds for people along with all its nostalgia, cheer, tradition and joy. I wish that I could say I’ve perfected my family relationships or that I don’t regress back to a cocktail of 8 years old mixed with repressed teenage angst…. But alas, I still do and this video was made POST 20 hours in the car with my parents, aunt and uncle, and after arriving to my other aunts home in southern California where the other 10 members of the clan were already settled for an epic week of Thanksgiving. What I’m already seeing, is just how much I’m willing to slide right back into the shadows and sulk instead od stnd for my own needs ad desires. And so I’m using this week as a place to practice asking for what I want without apologizing, making myself smaller, or making my needs less important to avoid conflict. So enjoy this diddy on the things I do to help myself be in the moment and stay connected. As always, it’s...
What you DON’T need when you are stuck (dancing involved)

What you DON’T need when you are stuck (dancing involved)

There is an epidemic happening: It’s called Information Overload.  What I hear often from women I work with is “I feel like I have so much information, TOO much information, so much so that I don’t even know what to do with it all”. They say to me “I just feel frustrated, I can see all my patterns, what I need to change or do, but I just can’t do it, and I am stuck.” At this point, most of us (including me) get caught in a cycle of seeking outside for answers. The next book, the next teacher, the next workshop, the next thing that will help you move forward. But here’s the thing: Most often at this place in your cycle, what’s happening is not that you need more information, it’s that you are too full and havn’t digested anything. You are avoiding feeling something, avoiding your body, avoiding being present. And nothing, NOTHING, else will help you move forward until you understand how to come back home, get connected, and realize that the clarity you really want comes after you’ve returned to yourself, not after you buy that next course. This video is about how to gain your own insight by going within BEFORE you go outside to take action. Because nothing you do outside is ever gonna feel good if you don’t feel connected to yourself. It’s also a video that was created on two levels. This weekend I happened to record myself freestyle dancing in my new house and when I started to edit this particular words of wisdom, I though to myself, I...
Throw Away your Feminine Archetypes….and Be Yourself.

Throw Away your Feminine Archetypes….and Be Yourself.

What would you say if I asked you to throw out all your archetypes, goddesses, and inspirational females you try to model yourself after? I started my first Art of Feminine Presence class in boulder this week and the theme of the series is DEFINE YOUR OWN FEMININE ARCHETYPE. I encouraged my ladies to throw away goddesses, inspirational leaders, and other feminine inspirations OUT THERE for the duration of our series to give themselves the space to feel and receive their own core essence. Kinda radical I suppose, but you know me. Do archetypes help us embody aspects of ourselves, yes. They can. AND they can also leave those aspects right were we found them, in the archetypes never to be integrated. Here’s my experience, not theory.  At first, the archetypes and inspirations are a muse, an inspiration. They are the INITIATION, the way shower. But when you want to bring it into YOUR BODY, YOUR VOICE,  YOUR MOVEMENT, when you’re looking to females OUT THERE for this, the best you’re gonna get is still feeling like there is something missing inside of you, because what you want is perpetually OUT THERE. Until you go within and discover the visceral , tangible, sense and feeling of your own essence, and then begin the process of bringing the inside out so you can have your own impact and presence reflected back to you, you will always feel like you don’t know your own value. This last year has been pivotal for me because I used it to digest what I had learned, and it was not always easy or painless....