I’m in the midst of creating my summer ‘Fire up your Biz‘ course and I’m realizing something very huge for me. I have a very deep rooted belief that in order to create I need to exhaust myself. And I’m literally tired of it and I’m ready to change it. If you can relate to this, keep reading, I’m about to do a soul-pouring….
I’ve always been a high achieving person, and that’s been an advantage for me. But it’s also my Achilles heel. Most people are somewhat shocked and awed to know that I run my whole business myself, including my video editing, web design, copywriting… pretty much everything. In fact, I think most people look at me and wish that they could do it all themselves too.
But here’s what you don’t see (unless you see me in person a lot)
I’M EXHAUSTED. I’m tired; the kind of tired where I need to lay down after one phone call. I still get frozen with fear, stuck in my own crazy belief patterns, in the fog, unable to express myself, totally unconscious, not present, anxious, and tense.
I have a list of “supposed tos” in my head. Supposed to get this done, call this person, email these people, eat dinner…
I’m “supposed to” stick to my weekly video schedule. I even have a video recorded and ready to edit. But I just don’t have it in me to edit it or send it out to you.
Over the years I’ve learned and come up with a routine that helps me move through these massive attacks of stagnation. It’s called SURRENDER.
I’m not talking about holding up the white flag and giving up. I’m talking about the kind of surrender that says, I’m ready.
Ready for what? Support, guidance, intuition, help, connection, love, your wildest dreams.
There is nothing that moves me back into receptivity and in the flow of my creation cycle for my biz than total surrender. Surrender is a powerful form of bright faith.
When you’re at your wits end and you have no idea what to do, you’re totally lost, your exhausted to the core, nothing is left to give. That’s when it happens.
It’s the kind of surrender that says:
I give up AND I’m ready. I ‘m listening.
Here’s a process I did today that got me into writing you this blog post:
1) Stop.Drop. And Roll into your Surrender Pose:
My surrender pose usually looks something like the image to the left. Yours might look similar. It might look like childs pose or something completely different. Only you know
The key here is know your pose, and just go there. You’ll know you’re there because you’re body will start to get the “all is well signal”. Your breath will slow. The chatter will lessen, your heart will open again.
Be here as long as you need. You’ll know when it’s time to move on.
2) Find your Surrender Playlist:
Music has always played a large role in my life as a dancer and as a hopeless romantic. I remember telling my good friend Joe once when he asked me what sort of music was my favorite and I said “music that makes me feel”.
Music makes us feel…. anything, something, everything. Music brings us into our bodies and into the present moment.
Lately I’ve been loving classical music ( Especially Eric Whitacre’s Album Water Night). Pandora and Spotify are a godsend.
Find what moves you. And if you need inspiration, the video below is one of my Art of Feminine Presence Students Lyndsey Rodriguez, singing a song called “Who you are” that always makes me feel and below that is a link to my Art of Feminine Presence Meditation playlist with some juicy music.
3) Create your Surrender ‘Sacred Space’
Danielle Laporte’s book The Fire Starter Sessions has brought up a revival in me around staying clear about how I want to feel in my life. For me, my big 5 are
nourished. influential. masterful.sensual. connected
The idea is that everything I do helps me create these feelings.
So today I made sure I created a space to create all these feelings during my surrender time. I created a workspace in my bedroom with candlelight, I brought in some flowers. A beautiful, sensual space makes me feel nourished and connected.
Creating beauty makes me feel masterful.
Feeling masterful helps me find a space to feel influential as I feel more inspired to write this heart-pour blog post.
Here’s a question to have in your sweet little surrender space this week:
WHAT ARE YOU TRYING TO CONTROL in your life and business?
Your latest offering. Your children. Your partner. All of the above?
How can you let go a little ( or a lot) and move more into surrender.
Please let me know what you loved about this post and more specifically:
What do you do when you get into a whacky crazy space and you need to re-connect to yourself? What are your techniques for calming the freakout moments in your life?
If you loved this, please share it with your biz chick friends who might need some support! Here’s a quick tweet you can use to send out
Feel like giving up? Use your surrender pose @lauren_sheehan http://j.mp/JWuT0Q
I am reminded that when I find this space of sweet surrender, I find myself again. Which is the only thing I ever search for.
So remember sweet biz chick sister. Surrender and go home to yourself. Because it’s more of you that we want.
With so much love and gratitude,
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