Why I worry way less + Connect with me in LA this week!

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by Lauren Sheehan on May 15, 2013

Having fun working out in the sun! Having fun working out in the sun!

 

Come See me in LA this week!

I decided to take a spontaneous trip to LA to visit friends and family and it’s a huge desire of mine to connect with some amazing women while I’m there!

Having the freedom in my life to makes these sorts of trips has been a huge driver of what I create and how I choose to do my work in the world.

Over the last few months I’ve been delving more deeply into clarifying who I am, what I desire, what is important to me and how I want to live and BE in the world, and my world has shifted a LOT.

In all this discovery, I’ve realized that one of my big passions is to be an example of possibility; limitless possibility. Everything that I do serves my souls desire to know for myself (like really know in my bones) that anything… ANYTHING… is possible.

And I feel ready to start sharing more of what I’ve learned from my own experiences in making some huge jumps in soul growth, inner confidence, self love, and courage over the last 6 months.

Here’s a few things that have shifted for me:

*I feel MORE connected to my inner knowing, my inner teacher and grasp less for something outside of me for comfort, security, and answers. (meaning, my sense of confidence has become something I’ve never experienced before… more meaningful, more deep, more certain)

*I worry about 80% less than I did before and the powerlessness I felt when my mind would start going into attack mode has significantly faded.

*My sense of self worth is increasingly becoming less and less connected to what I achieve, what my man thinks of me or what other people think of me

* I wake up in the morning feeling happy and optimistic about my day

* I’ve allowed myself to TRULEY experience rest ( and before I had no idea that I had no idea what real rest was)

*I manifested a relationship with a man who loves me without conditions (truley), sees me beyond what I can see in myself, and inspires me to be that in every moment

* I seek approval from others a WHOLE lot less and am experiencing the simplicity of when I just be myself, everything in my world gets better and so it does for those around me

So I’d love to SHARE with you my stories, my favorite Art of Feminine Presence tools, Badass Bizchick wisdom, and basically the HOW of how I have reached this place in my life of SENSUAL FREEDOM and how you can TOO.

If you’d like to help organize a gathering of women, large or small, please email me ASAP. I’ll be in LA tomorrow through Monday.

You can email me at lauren@femininerhythm.com

If you have a group that you host, a house/space you’d like to host some friends or clients and have me speak and give you an experience you will never forget, let’s chat!

I am committed to bringing you my enthusiasm, charisma, and miracle working skills to your peeps.

This is also an amazing opportunity to get a taster of The Art of Feminine Presence if you’ve been thinking about attending a weekend intensive or Teacher Training (for those who want to make some money, add to your toolset and join the sisterhood), I’ll be sharing some details about how to get involved in that.

I’m looking forward to connecting with you!

Much love,

 

PS. If you want to meet up to connect about how to work with me, spend some time ( or a whole immersion day) with me, collaborating, you know just being more awesome, hit me up too!

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How Harry Potter Land + Face Paint Can Help You Overcome Fear of Being Seen

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by Lauren Sheehan on April 29, 2013

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I made the decision to stay an extra day in Orlando to take my inner child to Harry Potter Land with a twinge in my belly saying ” Can I pay for all this? Where will I stay? I can’t take monday off, I have things to do, I’m already taking time off to be here at this event.”

I wasn’t sure about anything except the desire I felt inside to stay, play, and give myself the experience of immersing myself, SOLO, at a theme park, giving my inner child full reign to call the shots.

So when I arrived at Universal’s Islands of Adventure on Monday morning, first I felt excited, and then I started to feel lonely. I wanted to leave, I wanted a friend, I wanted to feel comfort, secure, safe.

So after wandering around the entire park feeling lonely, I found myself in the chair getting my face painted like a ‘benevolent dragon’ (ala the most hilarious video I’ve seen on funny or die) and when I got out, I found myself NERVOUS. I didn’t want anyone to notice me.

Which was kinda funny, given that I just had a freakin’ butterfly looking thing painted all over my face.

I was embarrassed. I went to the bathroom immediately and contemplated washing it all off when I realized something:

This is the VERY pattern that has me ( at times) and other women not putting our voices and our message out there, it’s the thing that stops us dead in our tracks.

FEAR OF BEING SEEN.

So I walked out of the bathroom with my head held high, my heart soft and open, my attention home inside my pelvic bowl, and a strong feminine lauren-style walk, and from that moment on, my day was nothing but perfection and magic.

Once I stopped hiding and apologizing for being me, people did things for me, I got into rides faster, I had the best conversations, I sold some Art of Feminine Presence Teacher Training, I had sales come in for my Magnetic Feminine Presence Online Course Sale ( which ends Thursday May 2nd PS) and I had so many realizations.

This is what I do best, immersing myself in the world and learning my lessons from my life.

And I made a short video for you about what I realized and how you can apply it to YOUR life and business so that you can start to come out of hiding.

You might be hiding on your website ( ahem… have you announced to anyone that you are taking clients yet?), you might be hiding in your community (ahhhhhh, what about that desire you have for speaking and leading others?) or you might be hiding the parts of you that are aching to be expressed now that you’ve done so much inner work.

Watch this video and let me know how you’re going to start committing to coming out of hiding… FOR YOU, not anyone else.

Because as I heard this weekend: It’s hard to spread your message, make money, and make an impact AND be hiding at the same time.

The last thing I can say I learned is that sometimes, actually for me, most times my best ideas come from the inner kid inside me and it’s interesting how often I judge her choices or snuff her out. I remember feeling an immediate “UGH, why did I listen to YOU and get my face painted anyhow!!” after I finished because now I had to ‘deal with it’.

And the truth is, it’s not my inner ‘lil one’ that is afraid to be seen, it’s another part all together. Your inner kid knows how shine and shine BIG, so it can just be as simple as listening in and following, and loving yourself enough to be seen, loving yourself enough to SEE yourself and

Ideas for coming out of Hiding this week:

1) Post on your website that you’re available for speaking, hiring, and anything else that you’re available for (dating possibly?? hehe)

2) Make a product you’ve created ‘ON SALE’ for a limited time, or have it in a shopping cart on your site.

3) Host an event that you lead to share your message or something you’re passionate about

4) Make a list of things you’ve been wanting to do, but havn’t been doing because you’re waiting…. ( for another person, for more money etc) and start doing them

5) Get on the online dating site you’ve been thinking about getting on

6) Go somewhere where there are lots of people alone, and ENJOY it

7) Go to that group or class you’ve been wanting to go to

8) Call that person you keep getting the intuitive nudge to call

9)Get a new haircut that feels more YOU- NOW

10) Hire a stylist to help you clean out your closet and get a new wardrobe

What will you do? I wanna know! Leave us a comment!

And don’t forget that my original online course, Magnetic Feminine Presence, is 50% until Thursday May 2nd.

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Three Lessons on Magic, Power, and Receptivity

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by Lauren Sheehan on April 26, 2013

#1: The Power of being Witnessed

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I have the pleasure of communing with 9 women every week.

We meet in my womb-space like, goddess inspired studio room in my house, I teach The Art of Feminine Presence and create a space for my ladies to be steeped in support, unconditional love, allowing, receiving, and the upward spiraling of sharing desires, dreams, coming home, and remembering our wholeness that naturally happens when women come together.

I made it a more vocal ‘intention’ for my April class to make it their practice for class to come dressed in at least one thing that helps them express the next evolution of the feminine. The part of themselves they are moving into.

So when everyone showed up for class one week I was so struck by the beauty of all of them I immediately started taking pictures. I snapped this one of Tiffany Harvey and later she posted the comment you see above around the difference between how silly she felt at the time and what was actually captured on in the photo.

“Helps me understand why we witness”, she says.

Lesson: You see so often we don’t see ourselves as others see us. And often we have layers and masks and covers shrouding who we really are. We see it physically, we feel it energetically, and we hear it in your voice and tone. And sometimes a simple thing, like seeing yourself in a photo when you felt silly and see that there is so much beauty, you can start to finally see that in yourself in a lasting way. A new perspective is created, and you can finally start to integrate and see a lasting shift in how you see yourself; how you love yourself.

This is a priceless gift we can give each other. Be witnessed. Allow others to see you, for reals. Witness others, share with them what you see that is PERFECTION already within them. Notice what happens when the people around you light up.

#2: Choose to have your life be magical, and it will be

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I woke up at 4am on thursday to be on my way to Orlando, for Suzanne Evans’ Be the Change Event and I awoke particularly in a icky mood. I felt this strong sense of discord in my body. I had this feeling like ‘I don’t wanna go, I’d rather stay in bed, there is so much to do here, it would be easier to stay.”

My friend Oren Harris, coach of legendary souls, gave me some amazing wisdom a few weeks back that read something like “Decide that what you choose to do with your time and energy will be amazing and it will be. The moment you leave this choice up to chance, even to ‘the universe’, you are giving your power to something outside of yourself.”

I have been remembering this daily, so I distinctly remember affirming on my way to the airport that this weekend would be magical and I would have magical connections.

Affirmations, for me, are becoming a mixture of magical incantation and the energy of allowing. I used to stay away from them thinking, these are just bullshit sayings to give people an excuse not to act, and now I feel a bit different. They are not a magic potion that allows me to wish my way to success without any action, they are a pleasurable way of focusing my attention, becoming more receptive, and from that place what occurs is always magic. Focusing, you see, is an action, choosing to place your energy and attention on feeling a certain way, is an action.

So when I was about to board my plane and I look back behind me to see my good friend, Sam Elick, CEO of BrainJuice and seriously enlightened being, my heart exploded with joy. Synchronicity.

“I knew this was going to be a magical weekend!” I exclaimed.

The magic to this is that all week Sam had been popping up in my awareness, and I would think, “I miss Sam, I want to see him soon”. I hadn’t seen or really spoken to Sam since we went to Lights all Night, a huge rave, in Dallas for New Year’s Eve. So even though I was surprised to see him, in a way, I wasn’t.

Sam and I had a lovely breakfast in Houston while we waiting for our connecting flights and I was filled with so much love and affirmation in my own magical powers, and in that moment I came more home to my inner knowing.

Lesson: Believe in your own power and magic. You have the ability in any given moment to decide how you want to feel and what you want to attract to you. Don’t make decisions based on “will this be good” or “will this be awesome”, you are more powerful than that.

Chew on this for a minute:You know that when you decide to do something, it will ALWAYS be good, because you choose it to be so.

What it takes to become the person who lives and breathes from that place is something I am exploring and embodying more and more. It’s not always easy for me, but it’s getting easier every day.

Affirmations bring you into the energy of allowing is one of the most potent energies that you can embody and express. When you are in this place, miracles occur, synchronicities happen, magical people show up, inspiring ideas to follow come into your mind.

Where in your life are you showing up to situations and putting your attention on what’s wrong or giving your decision power away to circumstance? Decide right now that you ‘GET to’ do something instead of ‘have to’ do something. Decide right now that you are the sort of person that brings joy and fun into all situations.

And if you want to read more about magical people, I found this article quite amusing , ” The 7 traits of Magical People”

#3: Receive yourself fully, a lesson we must all learn

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Here is a pic of something that struck me this week as I was on the plane to Orlando for Suzanne Evans’ Be the Change event (Which, by the way is amazing, the woman opened with a marching band playing Beyonce’s ‘Crazy in Love’ , cheerleaders, and the first thing she said when she came on stage was ‘Holy Fuck’…. and then I was hooked)

It’s from a book called, Reveal: A Sacred Manual for Getting Spiritually Naked By Meggan Watterson

This book couldn’t have come out at a more perfect time. As I’ve been exploring self love, unconditional love, and being fiercely connected to myself, as I started reading this book it was like a well opened up within me. There is so much wisdom and insight in this book.

Reveal: A Sacred Manual for Getting Spiritually Naked

What struck me about this is the truth in those words.

“Until a woman learns to receive herself, she will unconsciously force others to reject her, despite the fact that her most conscious desire is to be loved.”

How can I receive, truly receive, from anyone unless I can receive myself. And I am feeling how the more I receive myself, the more I OWN myself and all my parts, the more joyful I feel, the less lost I feel and it’s totally unattached to anything external. No matter what is going on around me or where I am more and more, I can find my center. I receive my own love. And when I do that I can BE and emanate love to those around me.

Lesson: The lesson here is inherent, so I will get straight to the ‘what the F do I do about it’ stuff:

1) Slow down: Are you trailblazing your way through life at a pace so fast that not even yourself can notice? Are you often saying that you ‘forget to eat’ because you are moving so quickly that you don’t even hear of feel your bodies signals saying “I’m SUPER HUNGRY, please feed me now or I’m gonna be real angry.” If this is you, start slowing down. Take more time for yourself, be still more, journal more, meditate, do yoga, walk slower, eat slower, type on your computer slower. Do everything MO’ SLOWER and see what happens.

2) Listen in to ‘The Within’, Your soul voice, your wombspace, your higher self…. whatever you call that part of you that is the voice of wisdom and unconditional love within you. You know that part of you that always knows, is never in a rush, and has every answer that you need for yourself, that one. Find your tool of choice for listening. My preferred method is

  • Stop what you are doing and place your attention in the center of your pelvis.
  • Allow whatever is there, feelings, sensations, and emotions to just be
  • Ask with a curiosity “What is it that I need to know right now?” or “What is here for me to know”?
  • Then I wait, unattached, and allowing, as if I have no idea what is coming.
  • When something starts to bubble up in the form of words or a feeling or a visual I write that down, or I hear it and take note.
  • Then I do my best to follow what that voice says.

This might require you to stop what you are doing and instead of continuing draining yourself on the computer, that you go outside and lay in the sun for 10 minutes or until you feel re-charged. It may require that you re-course your day to include a nap. It might mean calling a friend, calling your mom, or sometimes doing something that you are afraid to do, but you know has a lesson for you.

I’d love to hear what magic happened in YOUR week and what nuggets of wisdom you are taking from this post. Share em below!

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The Spiritual Lesson you might have missed (and is now so loud you can’t ignore it)

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by Lauren Sheehan on April 14, 2013

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The other week one of my friends and students was on the phone with me and she said, “So Lauren, when’s your next email coming out? I miss them?”

If there is one thing that I hear over and over from *experts* about marketing and email lists, it’s that consistency is key.

So when life started to happen and it became very clear to me that what felt good for me was to chill from blogging and videoing for a bit to take care of myself and get more clarity on who I am and what I’m about, I had a little fear about not being a consistent content sender 0uter.

The last 6 months of my life have been an intense ‘second’ spiritual awakening ( or meltdown as Brene Brown would say), and to say the least, it has been excruciating and ecstatic all at the same time.

I’ve been making difficult and seemingly life changing decisions, going deeper into my self than I ever have, making mistakes, taking risks, letting go of  control at a level of depth that I didn’t know existed, and being more honest with myself and others than I ever have.

I have been fiercely following my own flow and really tuning in to what that feels like and sounds like and that has required of me lots of space, a shift in who I spend time with, a shift in where my energy goes, a shift in the choices I make and a shift in how and when I express myself.

Watering your Root

This weekend I was sitting in a powerful circle called Women who Dance with Life led by my amazing friend and gifted coach Kate Short Lyndsay and I listened as her voice became clear and loud and she spoke with the tone of a loving and stern Mama Bear:

“When leaves get watered from the top down, and droplets hang on them during the day and the sun shines down on them, they burn. You have been watering yourself from the top down for too long, it is time to water your root. Water your roots for as long as you need, until you fill up and are plump and ripe, and then you can give of yourself. Only then. You are not allowed to do anything else. You are not allowed to put others first any longer.”

I was not only in awe of this woman sitting in front of me being so fierce and loving and powerful, I was reminded of what I intuitively felt was coming out of me at the beginning of 2013 when I was thinking about what I wanted for my year: Sustainability instead of building, rooting vs expansion, depth vs height, ordinary vs extraordinary.

The Gifts We Receive from Other Women

I received so much from Kate’s circle. Besides the gift of getting to let go and not be the teacher or ‘leader’ or ‘holder’ of a group, what came out of me in that circle was a permission that I gave back to myself through Kate’s bold and courageous words and leadership.

Her willingness to go to the fierce voice, the loving voice that sometimes gives us a ‘spiritual spanking’ or a loving nudge, reminded me of the part of me that is coming through, this more fierce, more edgy, more oracle like part of me that is more raw and unraveled.

And it sparked me on an hours long journey to allow myself to let my voice come out, on camera, to be seen and heard first and foremost for myself.

And what came out of that is this video that sums up in a way, what has been flowing through me for the past several months and I am just starting to really understand how to articulate.

It’s the spiritual lesson that you have missed ( or at least that I have missed) and is now so blaring loud that it can’t be ignored.

I believe this to be the most resonant and raw voice that I’ve allowed myself to share from on a camera.

I know this to be true for myself and I hear it echoed in the women around me. We are growing more hungry for this feeling, this center of being. And it’s not for a man to come galloping on his white horse to save us and love us, it’s not for a million dollars to show up in our bank accounts tomorrow, it’s not to be the next superstar (even though all those desires are valid), it’s something more than that.

It sounds something like this:“I want to feel so connected to myself, so much love for myself, so clear in my own voice that there is NO ROOM for any doubt or fear”

In my years of working with women in my Art of Feminine Presence classes and in my Badass Biz Coaching, one common theme always emerged when I asked how I could help. The first answer always seemed to be the same: It’s not that I don’t think I can have these things that I want, it’s just that I have so much fear. I want help moving past my fear.

Translation= I want to love myself so much that there is no room for fear. It’s that simple.

So this is my ode to you, dear women, when you are feeling hungry, alone, tired, and afraid. I created this for you, and then I realized I created it for myself.

What you can expect from me moving forward

I’m realizing more and more  is that I teach what I need to learn and integrate, as I’m integrating it. Teaching something is an excellent way to integrate something as it gets it from your head space and into your body. For me, teaching is a way of embodying and expressing myself.

I am a dynamic woman with many skills, much wisdom, and many talents. My expertise is wide and expansive. From the knowledge I’ve gained growing my business online and in my community for the past 5 years to the mastery I have in teaching the Art of Feminine Presence, to my love of dance, my creative genius and my curiosity for life, I learn fast and I get bored quickly.

The question I had inside me was how do I share what is exciting to me AND not feel boxed in by my own brand or specified topic of interest? How do I not confuse people with what I am about? How do I stay true to me and also be of service to YOU all?

My soul sister Jessica Sager shared with me this weekend that “Your courageous exploration of your own true self expression, your willingness to go there and to explore the depths of it is amazing. And each time you go there, your creativity opens up this beautiful space for others to expand and explore that with you.”

And so that is what I will do. I will keep exploring this life journey and I will keep sharing, and I will bask in the juicy space that is created for myself to explore and invite you in to explore with me.

Of course, the only way I can be of service to you all is to be true to me.

And this is true for all of you. You are all dynamic beings. You will shift and change as life does. You do not have to stick yourself into one topic or one box forever. Find the common thread, the umbrella that encases you always.

It’s as simple as sharing yourself, sharing what you are learning, and allowing others to learn along with you.

Things to reflect upon from this post:

What women in your life are reflecting something that you want to bring out more in yourself?

Where in your life do you feel yourself watering from the top down instead of straight to your thirsty roots?

Leave a comment, send me and email! I wanna hear from you!

PS. In case you were wondering my next 5 week series on the Art of Feminine Presence is beginning on May 7th. And there might be a morning circle in the works coming soon so stay tuned!
Photo: So for my April round of art of feminine presence I asked my ladies to make it our practice to wear clothes that help us express our next evolution as a feminine woman... And shadow showed up in this. </p><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> <p>I havnt seen her in a dress since she came to class 6 months ago!!!
This is a pic of Shadow, who’s been taking class since June of 2012 and in this April series I asked all my students to make it their practice to come to class in something, ANYTHING that expressed the part of their feminine that is ready to blossom to the next level.

This is the FIRST time I’ve ever seen her in a dress. Holy Smokes! There’s always room for more juicy transformation.

I have room for 10 ladies. See the details here

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4 Ways to Celebrate the Women in your life (plus I admit something scary)

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by Lauren Sheehan on March 7, 2013

Women all over the world are hearing the call to step up, to lead, to speak out, to share, to shift and change. YOU are one of them. YOU are amazing.

In honor of International Women’s day, I want to say thank you for being a woman who is dedicated to being the woman that her soul desires, who follows her heart, and desires to make a positive impact on the world.

One of my favorite authors, Tami Lynn Kent, writes in her book Wild Feminine, about wombs. She writes how there are layers and ancestry of our womb. We have our own womb and we were created in our mothers womb. As women, we are born with all the eggs we will ever have, therefore when our mother was a baby insider our grandmother’s womb, we too were inside our grandmother as an unfertilized egg. And to add another layer, we carry the wombs of our unborn daughters and should we birth a girl child, we will carry the makings of our granddaughter’s wombs.

CRAZY-COOLNESS!!!! The matrix of our womanly ancestry is so amazing isn’t it?

I just got back from Washington DC spending 6 days with out latest batch of AWESOME Art of Feminine Presence teachers and I felt so blessed to be graced by each gift they gave me with their presence and beauty. Each time women gather like we do, I feel the matrix… I feel the collective energy that brought us all together. It’s what got me started on my journey.

Beautiful WomenWhen I first began my journey into myself, my feminine (which when I look back a few years was like the pre-school of initiation into womanhood… I now feel like maybe I’m in 1st grade of womanhood), I remember doing an interview with my mom about my birth from pre-conception to post birth. I also asked her to tell me about her childhood, her relationships with the women in her life, and the challenges she faced as well as her biggest celebrations.

You see, we have this collective consciousness as women and we are all working to overcome the patterns of our ancestry that have held us back and kept us small.

The patterns of your mother’s ancestry are a crucial and insightful place to look when you want to fast track your growth. That being said, just because you are aware of what you are overcoming, doesn’t make it any easier to overcome.

For example, I was able to find out from my mom that she had some issues feeling overpowered by her matriarchal and very outspoken grandmother, as well as her own mother. I was and still do see this showing up all over the place in my life; the way I shrink in the presence of another powerful woman instead of hold my own energy, stay big and shine with her, the way I still feel jealous of what I see other women doing on facebook, the way I unknowingly sabotage relationships with my friends and sisters because of it.

And that is scary to admit here to you all, but I feel that way sometimes and it’s not a pleasant feeling or pattern to see in myself. I remedy my self attack mode with lots of Pema Chodron, tears, and lots of dancing and meditation.

What this inquiry to my mother also did besides help me see myself better, it softened me to my mom. I was able to see her in a more compassionate way, I could relate to her, I could see why she was the way she was without judgement or resistance and it was the start of a more close relationship with her.

And more compassion, in my opinion, is what the world needs most right now. Compassion for ourselves and for others. And the best part is that it works both ways. When we can have compassion for others, we can see and love that part of ourselves and when we love that part of ourselves we have more compassion for that part in others.

So my call to action for you today is:

1) Thank a woman in your life. Appreciate her. Tell her she is beautiful. Tell her specifically what she has done to make your life amazing. Tell her why she inspires you. ( Bonus points if you appreciate her in front of other people!!!)

2) Make Amends: We all have sisters and family we’ve burned bridges with. I’m slowly learning the lesson of unconditional love and asking . To make amends to make anew. It is taking responsibility for what you did that did NOT work, and offering a heart felt apology. If there is a woman in your life that you’ve been feeling off with, I encourage you to send her an amends. Clear some of that icky air out of the way, and be open to whatever connection might be there.

3) Interview a woman relative: Take stock on the ancestral patterns and celebrations that you have within you. Take note of the big 3-5 challenges you see in your ancestry that you see in yourself.

4) Practice Compassion: Tonglen, forgiveness, breathing, dancing, meditation, journaling… whatever your practice for more compassion may be. Use it today for yourself and for others.

As always, I am so happy to support you and be with you on your journey.

Thank you for doing what you do, being who you are, and stepping out into this world as a courageous beautiful women on a mission great or small (and it’s never small, even if it seems that way).

Leave a comment below with your own thoughts about your ancestry, what you find out, what you appreciate about woman….. just lemme know you’re here!!

 

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