#1: The Power of being Witnessed
I have the pleasure of communing with 9 women every week.
We meet in my womb-space like, goddess inspired studio room in my house, I teach The Art of Feminine Presence and create a space for my ladies to be steeped in support, unconditional love, allowing, receiving, and the upward spiraling of sharing desires, dreams, coming home, and remembering our wholeness that naturally happens when women come together.
I made it a more vocal ‘intention’ for my April class to make it their practice for class to come dressed in at least one thing that helps them express the next evolution of the feminine. The part of themselves they are moving into.
So when everyone showed up for class one week I was so struck by the beauty of all of them I immediately started taking pictures. I snapped this one of Tiffany Harvey and later she posted the comment you see above around the difference between how silly she felt at the time and what was actually captured on in the photo.
“Helps me understand why we witness”, she says.
Lesson: You see so often we don’t see ourselves as others see us. And often we have layers and masks and covers shrouding who we really are. We see it physically, we feel it energetically, and we hear it in your voice and tone. And sometimes a simple thing, like seeing yourself in a photo when you felt silly and see that there is so much beauty, you can start to finally see that in yourself in a lasting way. A new perspective is created, and you can finally start to integrate and see a lasting shift in how you see yourself; how you love yourself.
This is a priceless gift we can give each other. Be witnessed. Allow others to see you, for reals. Witness others, share with them what you see that is PERFECTION already within them. Notice what happens when the people around you light up.
#2: Choose to have your life be magical, and it will be
I woke up at 4am on thursday to be on my way to Orlando, for Suzanne Evans’ Be the Change Event and I awoke particularly in a icky mood. I felt this strong sense of discord in my body. I had this feeling like ‘I don’t wanna go, I’d rather stay in bed, there is so much to do here, it would be easier to stay.”
My friend Oren Harris, coach of legendary souls, gave me some amazing wisdom a few weeks back that read something like “Decide that what you choose to do with your time and energy will be amazing and it will be. The moment you leave this choice up to chance, even to ‘the universe’, you are giving your power to something outside of yourself.”
I have been remembering this daily, so I distinctly remember affirming on my way to the airport that this weekend would be magical and I would have magical connections.
Affirmations, for me, are becoming a mixture of magical incantation and the energy of allowing. I used to stay away from them thinking, these are just bullshit sayings to give people an excuse not to act, and now I feel a bit different. They are not a magic potion that allows me to wish my way to success without any action, they are a pleasurable way of focusing my attention, becoming more receptive, and from that place what occurs is always magic. Focusing, you see, is an action, choosing to place your energy and attention on feeling a certain way, is an action.
So when I was about to board my plane and I look back behind me to see my good friend, Sam Elick, CEO of BrainJuice and seriously enlightened being, my heart exploded with joy. Synchronicity.
“I knew this was going to be a magical weekend!” I exclaimed.
The magic to this is that all week Sam had been popping up in my awareness, and I would think, “I miss Sam, I want to see him soon”. I hadn’t seen or really spoken to Sam since we went to Lights all Night, a huge rave, in Dallas for New Year’s Eve. So even though I was surprised to see him, in a way, I wasn’t.
Sam and I had a lovely breakfast in Houston while we waiting for our connecting flights and I was filled with so much love and affirmation in my own magical powers, and in that moment I came more home to my inner knowing.
Lesson: Believe in your own power and magic. You have the ability in any given moment to decide how you want to feel and what you want to attract to you. Don’t make decisions based on “will this be good” or “will this be awesome”, you are more powerful than that.
Chew on this for a minute:You know that when you decide to do something, it will ALWAYS be good, because you choose it to be so.
What it takes to become the person who lives and breathes from that place is something I am exploring and embodying more and more. It’s not always easy for me, but it’s getting easier every day.
Affirmations bring you into the energy of allowing is one of the most potent energies that you can embody and express. When you are in this place, miracles occur, synchronicities happen, magical people show up, inspiring ideas to follow come into your mind.
Where in your life are you showing up to situations and putting your attention on what’s wrong or giving your decision power away to circumstance? Decide right now that you ‘GET to’ do something instead of ‘have to’ do something. Decide right now that you are the sort of person that brings joy and fun into all situations.
And if you want to read more about magical people, I found this article quite amusing , ” The 7 traits of Magical People”
#3: Receive yourself fully, a lesson we must all learn
Here is a pic of something that struck me this week as I was on the plane to Orlando for Suzanne Evans’ Be the Change event (Which, by the way is amazing, the woman opened with a marching band playing Beyonce’s ‘Crazy in Love’ , cheerleaders, and the first thing she said when she came on stage was ‘Holy Fuck’…. and then I was hooked)
It’s from a book called, Reveal: A Sacred Manual for Getting Spiritually Naked By Meggan Watterson
This book couldn’t have come out at a more perfect time. As I’ve been exploring self love, unconditional love, and being fiercely connected to myself, as I started reading this book it was like a well opened up within me. There is so much wisdom and insight in this book.
Reveal: A Sacred Manual for Getting Spiritually Naked
What struck me about this is the truth in those words.
“Until a woman learns to receive herself, she will unconsciously force others to reject her, despite the fact that her most conscious desire is to be loved.”
How can I receive, truly receive, from anyone unless I can receive myself. And I am feeling how the more I receive myself, the more I OWN myself and all my parts, the more joyful I feel, the less lost I feel and it’s totally unattached to anything external. No matter what is going on around me or where I am more and more, I can find my center. I receive my own love. And when I do that I can BE and emanate love to those around me.
Lesson: The lesson here is inherent, so I will get straight to the ‘what the F do I do about it’ stuff:
1) Slow down: Are you trailblazing your way through life at a pace so fast that not even yourself can notice? Are you often saying that you ‘forget to eat’ because you are moving so quickly that you don’t even hear of feel your bodies signals saying “I’m SUPER HUNGRY, please feed me now or I’m gonna be real angry.” If this is you, start slowing down. Take more time for yourself, be still more, journal more, meditate, do yoga, walk slower, eat slower, type on your computer slower. Do everything MO’ SLOWER and see what happens.
2) Listen in to ‘The Within’, Your soul voice, your wombspace, your higher self…. whatever you call that part of you that is the voice of wisdom and unconditional love within you. You know that part of you that always knows, is never in a rush, and has every answer that you need for yourself, that one. Find your tool of choice for listening. My preferred method is
- Stop what you are doing and place your attention in the center of your pelvis.
- Allow whatever is there, feelings, sensations, and emotions to just be
- Ask with a curiosity “What is it that I need to know right now?” or “What is here for me to know”?
- Then I wait, unattached, and allowing, as if I have no idea what is coming.
- When something starts to bubble up in the form of words or a feeling or a visual I write that down, or I hear it and take note.
- Then I do my best to follow what that voice says.
This might require you to stop what you are doing and instead of continuing draining yourself on the computer, that you go outside and lay in the sun for 10 minutes or until you feel re-charged. It may require that you re-course your day to include a nap. It might mean calling a friend, calling your mom, or sometimes doing something that you are afraid to do, but you know has a lesson for you.
I’d love to hear what magic happened in YOUR week and what nuggets of wisdom you are taking from this post. Share em below!